LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE
The saying to Let Sleeping Dogs Lie means to ignore a problem because trying to deal with it could cause an even more difficult situation. Every family has its secrets. Some of the secrets are open ones that everyone knows except the person that it affects. You have probably heard your grandmother or mother say Momma’s baby Daddy’s maybe and knew which child in the family that comment was directed at.
I was watching a paternity show where a 25-year-old woman wanted to know if the man she always thought of as her dad was indeed her father. The man she called dad was now saying that he wasn’t her dad. He now claims that he always knew he wasn’t her father. If he knew when that baby was born that it wasn’t his, or he questioned it; why didn’t he say it then? Why would he allow grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and a sibling to grow up to believe that they were related? The young lady had a stepmother that was in her life from day one, and later a sister that grew up with her. The man had claimed an outside kid that wasn’t his, and his wife accepted the child. Twenty-five years later it is determined that the child is not her husband’s, and the sisters have no blood ties.
My question to you is, “Would it have been better to let sleeping dogs lie?” Why would a man bring a child he knew was not his to his wife. I don’t believe he would. At some point he believed that the child could have been his. Maybe as the child got older and didn’t look like anyone in his family or something happened to make him question her paternity. He said he claimed her because he didn’t want the child living in the streets like her mother. I don’t believe he would risk breaking up his marriage to be a good Samaritan to a random pregnant woman on the street.
Twenty-five years later what difference did it make if she was not his daughter? If he loved that child and watched her grow up to be a young woman, why deny her now? My thought is he was never a father to her because if he were, he would have wanted to protect her from the ugly truth.
At the end of the show, it was determined that he was not the father. As the young woman wept, he told her that her real father was his uncle and that he was dead.
They say that the truth will set you free, but in this case, perhaps it would have been better to let sleeping dogs lie.