A Legacy is passed from one generation to the next. I always thought of a legacy as something of monetary value, a house, money, car, or jewelry. It was not until I got older that I thought about the personal legacy that I will leave behind. Yes, I want to leave my son and grandkids something of monetary worth, but I also want to leave them with a personal legacy.
Having worked for over 40 years I will be able to leave a monetary legacy. But, while I was working hard, I never thought about leaving something that would not fade away, be spent, or lost? How many times have you heard that someone was left a house, money, or both, and within a year or two that person had lost everything?
I want to leave something that will not fade away or be lost. I want my story to be passed on from generation to generation. I want to leave my son a lifetime of memories. I want him to know that I lived my life as well as I knew how. I want him to be proud of the woman that I was.
As young mothers we were more concerned about providing the basic things of life for our children such as food, clothing, and shelter. As we worked, cooked, cleaned, and worried how we were going to pay our bills, we also tried to teach our kids how to be good people. But few of us taught our children to save, invest or plan for retirement. How could we teach them something that we were not taught?
My son is an adult with a family of his own and now as a living legacy we talk about wealth building, and the importance of spending time with family. We also discuss the importance of having a personal relationship with God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. We express to each other things that are on our hearts and what we hope for each other. Having an adult relationship with my son is a trip. He teaches me more than I have ever taught him. He challenges some of my point of views, but he knows that I’m unshakeable regarding my faith in God and Jesus Christ.
Although there are things that I did not teach him as a child, we are learning things together and teaching each other now. If my son and I disagree on a subject my son will quite often dispel my argument with the statement “Come on Mom that’s not how you feel, I know you.” The phrase, I know you, use to make me angry. But now I’m glad that my son knows me. It tickles me that he thinks he knows everything about me, not just surface stuff but the deep things of me. My son will not have to question who I was when I’m gone, because he knows who I am.
So, while we strive to leave our children monetary things to build wealth, let’s not forget to teach them principles to live their lives by. Exoteric as well as practical things. Let your children know who you are, what you wanted out of this life and what you accomplished. We will leave our children a personal legacy, so if you need to apologize, explain, or correct some things do it now. Do it now while you have the chance to tell your story in your own words. Let them know all of you because you are more than their mother.